By Stacy Bremner, MA, RP
We are living in a time of wondrous extremes; there is illness, fear and quarantine and also so much help, connection, and loving efforts. As we stay home in isolation, so much comes up. It is unique for each person. As the Chinese character for CRISIS is translated to include both Trauma and Opportunity, so we can benefit ourselves by attending to both.
This Blog will include resources, ideas and practices to add to your holistic health and well-being whether you are spending this time mainly alone or with others.
Our Brain Wants to Conserve Energy
I have been working on myself holistically for decades and what I know is that if we want to feel better we have to take action. That can be difficult at first because our brain wants to conserve energy. If you think about it, most of what we do in a day is automatic. For example when you shower, bathe, brush your teeth, eat breakfast, or in all ways prepare for your day, I suspect it is done without excessive thought, effort, or variation. For example, I know that when I choose an outfit, I grab the same jewellery to wear each time. If I buy something new, I take some time to decide what jewellery looks appropriate. Once I decide, I repeat that jewellery selection every time, and I can get ready for my day quickly. Where do you notice you do this? When cooking? Eating? Driving? Working? Playing?
Our Thinking is Automatic
Our thinking about daily events is also automatic and thus our resulting feelings. If we are driving and another driver cuts us off, we react habitually with the same thought, “Hey, what an idiot!” and the same feeling, I.e. annoyance. And that will last however long for each person. For example, some people might let it go right away and others may talk about it with others, and in effect re-live it.
When we are living in such close proximity, it can be a time to be aware of what we do and how we affect others. One reason this is important is because we are all sensitive to each other and our energies become attuned and that is unavoidable. For example, if you come home from work in a great mood and your spouse is feeling low, it is only a matter of time before your mood sinks. This is called “Emotional Attunement”.
Let’s Feel Better
So it can be very helpful to be responsible for our own vibration and lift ourselves up into Love and away from fear, which can help us, and everyone around us. In this way we are a great role model for children, too. I do not mean superficial happiness; I mean true effort towards healthy balance, and living with more ease.
Mindfulness practices can help us really get to know ourselves and all these aspects. How long does it take you to “come back to center” and feel calm or ok, after an upsetting event? How long do you hang onto negative or fearful thoughts and stories? How OFTEN do you de-stress? HOW do you de-stress?
When we sit and get to know ourselves we can see that we are anxious, or angry, or sad, or happy, or calm and how we flow in and out of our habitual/favorite feelings.
Do you have a feeling that you would like to let go of more often or faster?
Here is a super fast and effective practice:
Do This All Day Long
Take a fast from negative thinking. Whenever you notice a negative, fearful, judgemental or hateful thought, let it go by breathing it out, and say, “What else is possible?” And breathe in deeply, to fill yourself with happiness and peace. Put up a visual reminder to do this. Watch how you shift over time.
It Is a Healthy Lifestyle Choice
Some people think life should be easy and we should just be happy, and thus resist putting effort into feeling better, or others may not even know it is possible to feel better! If that has been you, I encourage you to let go of those types of ideas and try something new. YOU are worth the effort!
I like to be open to new practices even though I am an older person. A few months ago I started a new exercise program that is super intense, called Metabolic Renewal. I was pleasantly surprised that, at the age of 59, I have more energy and I am waking up earlier! I had no idea I would get those benefits. So being open to new things can be a fulfilling adventure!
Also a few months ago I signed up for Lisa Natoli’s 40 day Program because I love A Course in Miracles (ACIM) and I loved having her video and practice there in my email inbox every morning. I didn’t want it to end. Yet after it ended, I realized that I had bumped up to another level inside myself.
Some Resources
If you would like some ideas to get started, here are 3 of my favorites related to ACIM:
Sign up for Lisa Natoli’s 40 day Program of Transformation (free online program). Lisa is a very down to earth teacher who repeatedly reminds you to “watch your thoughts like a hawk.”
Listen to a Podcast called “From Anxiety to Love with Corinne Zupko”. Corinne is another excellent ACIM teacher who works with her own extreme anxiety.
Read Marianne Williamson’s book, “A Return to Love: Reflections on the principles of A Course in Miracles”. In this introduction to ACIM, we learn that only Love is real and the rest is illusion.
In Closing
I would like to offer a gentle nudge as Now is the time. Choose something that speaks to you and practice it each day. We will all benefit as we practice greater self-care, and a better connection with others, inwardly and outwardly.
Stacy Bremner, Citizen of the World