Sex is More Complicated Than We Think!
We assume sex should be easy or that sex is natural, but in truth there is a lot to learn about sex and sexuality, about our self, and about our partner(s).
We can end up having a sexual power struggle just like having arguments and misunderstandings about any other topics like household chores, parenting, money, leisure time, etc.
And that can cause a heartbreaking disconnection.
Navigating Sexual Desire in Relationships
Many couples I meet find themselves in a place of little or no sexual connection, unsure how to bridge the gap in desire. The most common situation is where one partner wants sex and the other does not. This can feel confusing, painful, or even frightening—but it’s more common than most people realize.
It’s important to know: you are not damaged. Differences in sexual desire are as natural as differences in communication styles, emotional needs, or life rhythms. These variations aren’t inherently problematic—but when left unresolved, they can create more distance.
Let’s start a conversation about sex:
In therapy, we explore these differences with compassion and curiosity. Rather than pathologizing either partner, we treat this as an important couplehood dynamic—one that invites reflection, dialogue, and growth. Together, we create space for emotional safety, honest conversation, and new possibilities—whether that means rekindling intimacy, redefining connection, or simply understanding each other more deeply.
We can end up having a sexual power struggle just like having arguments and misunderstandings about any other topics like household chores, parenting, money, leisure time, etc.
And that can cause a heartbreaking disconnection.
You Don’t Have to Navigate This Alone
I’ve had the privilege of studying with some of the most respected voices in the field of relational and sexual health—including Martha Kauppi, Esther Perel, Amy Color, and leading experts in Imago therapy such as DR. Pat Love, Dr. Tammy Nelson, Dr. Joe Kort, Sophie Slade, Gail Guttman, and more. Their wisdom continues to shape my approach to helping couples move through sexual challenges with clarity, compassion, and renewed connection.
If you’re feeling stuck, uncertain, or disconnected, please know: you are not alone, and you are not broken. Sexual concerns are a natural part of couplehood—and they are absolutely worth tending to.
I’m here to help you explore, understand, and heal—at your own pace, and in a space that honours your values and emotional safety.
